全心全意爱对方不如多爱自己 him, single, impressive, attention, feeling

小尾巴猪

I have ever had abundant love experiences. My most impressive perception is that it is the best to be single.

我曾经有过丰富的感情经历。最深的体会是，不爱的时候状态最好。

When you love someone, all your attention is focused on him. You will be missing him, expecting to see him, worrying about him and feeling sad about him. In all, your whole heart has been dedicated to him without the least to yourself. All your happiness and sorrows stem from external factors, while all your giving and expectation will oftentimes result in desperation. The bigger your anticipation, the deeper your desperation.

当爱一个人的时候，你的心思都在他的身上，想着他，盼着他，担心是他，发愁是他，期望是他，失望是他，一颗心都在他人身上时，便没有了自己。你的喜怒哀乐，都是因为外在的原因。而一切的付出和期待，往往得到的是失望。期望越大，失望也越大。

When you are single, you will concentrate on yourself. You will arrange your dressing and dietary in a healthy manner and do whatever you like without considering others’ views. Only at that time will you feel downright relieved mentally and live entirely for yourself.

不爱的时候，你的心思才收回到自己身上，为了自己的健康去合理地衣食住行，为了自己的美丽随心所欲地打扮，想成什么样就什么样，想做什么人就做什么人，不必考虑他人的眼光。这时你才能感觉到彻底的心灵上的自由和解放，完全为自己的喜好而活着。

When you are single, your mindset is the most placid and calm. It is also the easiest time for you to get along with others without too much hospitality, doubt, sensitivity, anger, anxiety and sadness and illusion.

不爱的时候，心情最为平静，心态最为平稳，性情最为淡泊，与他人最好相处。没有多余的热情，没有多疑的猜忌，没有受伤的敏感，没有变态的恼怒，没有期望的焦虑，没有失望的伤心，没有不着边际的幻想。

When you are single, you have more time to enrich your soul and ameliorate your life quality. You have more passion towards your friends and more free time to do your favorites. Moreover, you have more confidence to actualize yourself!

不爱的时候，你有更多的时间用于丰富自己的心灵，有更多的精力来用于改善自己的生活，有更多的热情分散给朋友们，有更多的闲暇用于做你自己真正喜欢的事情，有更多的自信和笃定来塑造真正的自己。

Love, especially between man and woman, is the most complicated thing in the world. Once you get trapped into it, you will be persecuted by endless emotional troubles. The volatility of human’s thinking and life affairs also add more difficulty to keeping an eternal love. Instead of being terribly bothered by loving someone, why not love yourself more?

感情，尤其是男女之间的感情，是世上最复杂最难解的方程式。深陷其中的人，无一不被烦恼和困惑缠绕，人心的复杂多变，世事的纷繁无常，都增添了感情这道题的难度，与其深陷其中而永世不得超生，不如多一些关爱给自己……

安德森

回复 5# 小尾巴猪


   i got it

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回复 6# zqytwy


    Thanks for your supporting!

zqytwy

是的，爱只有互相才能走得更远。。。否则就应该多爱一点自己，祝福。Yes, love each other only to go further... Or it should be more love a little himself, a blessing.

小尾巴猪

回复 4# 安德森


    Love everything what you want!

安德森

love something,and anything.

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回复 2# tingroom


    If you love yourself firstly, then others can love you more!

tingroom

if we only love ourselves,who will love us.