As I learn and practice more and more, I can say to the one I love: "I love you, I value you, I respect you and I trust that you have the strength to become all that it is possible for you to become — if I don't get in your way. I love you so much that I can set you free to walk beside me in joy and in sadness.
I will share your tears but I will not ask you not to cry. I will respond to your needs. I will care and comfort you, but I will not hold you up when you can walk alone. I will stand ready to be with you in your grief and loneliness but I will not take it away from you. I will strive to listen to your meaning as well as your word, but I shall not always agree.
Sometimes I will be angry and when I am, I will try to tell you openly so that I need not hate our differences or feel estranged. I can not always be with you or hear what you say for there are times when I must listen to myself and care for myself, and when that happens I will be as honest with you as I can be."
I am learning to say this, whether it be in words or in my way of being with others and myself, to those I love and for whom I care. And this I call loving with an open hand.
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I cannot always keep my hands off the cocoon, but I am getting better at it!
I am learning to say this, whether it be in words or in my way of being with others and myself, to those I love and for whom I care. And this I call loving with an open hand.
对于那些爱着我和关心我的人,我正学着表达,不管是用语言,还是用我对待其他人和自己的方式。我管这种方式叫做放爱一条生路。作者: zqytwy 时间: 2012-1-10 19:07
很好的警示。。。我们总以为给予也许是对爱最好的表达。。。也许也要问他需要什么。。。或者需不需要这样窒息的爱。。。谢谢分享,祝福。Very good warning... We always think to give for love may be the best show... May also want to ask what he needed... Or need not to need the love of choking so... Thank you for sharing, a blessing.