"It's often not the closer relationships with bosses, the promotions, or the raises that create hostility," explains Tina Lewis Rowe, a career coach in Denver. "It's the way the employee with good fortune handles it.”
来自丹佛市的职业教练Tina Lewis Rowe说：“导致敌意的往往不是和老板关系紧密、晋升或加薪，而是交了好运的员工处理的方式。”
Don't name-drop the CEO you had lunch with, mention the conference you're attending or talk excitedly about your new job or salary with less-fortunate coworkers. "Even a saint would have trouble smiling and being happy for someone in those circumstances," she says.
It's natural to feel humbled by a wonderful career development, but those who didn't get the raise don't want to hear how undeserving you feel, said Lewis Rowe. Chances are, they might agree.
Lewis Rowe说，你得到一次极好的职业发展机会自然会感到自己卑微，但是没有获得提拔的人们可不希望听见你说自己多么不配。他们可能会附议。
* De-escalate tension.
缓和紧张关系
If you're a new manager for former peers, encourage your new staff's strengths.
如果你是过去同事的新经理，那么鼓励新手下发挥其长处。
"You need to know what to do to make all the people (in your department) stars," she says. "I was always finding the most successful people and promoting them out from underneath me. That's an accomplishment that the employee and the manager can agree they did together."
