Certainly there are many factors that influence the events and outcomes in your life. The best things to focus on, however, are the things you can control.

Sure, the weather or the economy or the government or your next-door neighbor may have inflicted some difficulties upon your life. So what is the best way to move forward?

Resentment and anger will do little more than waste your time and could likely make you ill. Building an elaborate case of blame for what has happened will drain your energy and leave you no further ahead than when you started.

Instead, consider forgiveness. Even though someone else may be to blame, consider the freedom and power and control of taking full responsibility for your own situation.

When you focus on blame, you position yourself as a helpless victim. Choose instead to take responsibility, and you'll live life on your own terms.