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Forgiveness: I am good at letting go of past hurts and disappointments.
Happiness is easy and natural until you experience your first wound. For this reason, the second meta-attitude that makes such a big difference to your happiness score is forgiveness. You cannot hold onto a grievance and be happy. Why? One reason is you can't be a victim and be happy. Holding onto a grievance is a sign of a mistaken identity. You are not a victim. Also, holding onto a grievance is really a decision to keep suffering. Forgiveness helps you let go and be happy.
Resentment keeps you stuck in the past; forgiveness brings you back to the present. Resentment costs too much, and it doesn't make you happy. Resentment is a ball and chain; forgiveness sets you free again. Forgiveness offers you insurance against premature aging, a blocked heart, an unhealed past and an unhappy future. To increase your happiness score, try this forgiveness prayer:
Dear God, I declare today a day of amnesty, in which I gratefully volunteer to hand in all of my resentments and grievances to You. Please help me to handle well all of the peace that must inevitably follow. Amen.
宽恕：我擅于放下过去的伤害和失望
在你第一次受伤以前，幸福是件很容易和自然的事。基于这个原因，第二个决定幸福得分的基本态度是宽恕。你不能同时紧抓悲哀和幸福。为什么呢？一个原因是你不能同时是受害者和幸福者。紧抓悲伤是弄错身份的标志。你不是个受害者。同时，抓住悲伤不放其实是下决心要持续受苦。宽恕能帮你放下，拥有幸福。
憎恨让你卡在过去；宽恕带你回到当下。憎恨的代价太大了，它不会让你幸福。憎恨是锁链，而宽恕却又让你免遭早衰、内心的封锁、未疗愈的过去和不幸的将来。为了增加你的幸福得分，试试下面这个宽恕祈祷：
亲爱的上帝，我宣布今天是大赦之日，我自愿把所有的憎恨和悲伤交给您。请求您帮我处理好所有必然随之而来的平静。阿门。
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