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How to Avoid Overreacting and Acting like a Juvenile

Have you ever reacted badly to what someone said or did? Perhaps you were being righteous, defensive, or merely wanted to make sure you corrected some erroneous facts. I'm sure you have, as have I.

Looking retrospectively(adv.回顾地), I've made plenty of social errors by saying or doing the wrong thing. Overreaction would be an understatement and I'm sure you can relate this to some situation in your life. The point isn't to dwell on(详细论述) these facts, but to learn from them and move forward to being a better person -- to mature.

Several Ways on the Path to Not Overreact
Say Nothing
I'm sure you've heard the expression, "If you don't have anything nice to say, don't say it at all." It's simple, safe, and priceless when it comes to avoiding saying the wrong thing to someone.
Write it Down
Instead of blurting out(脱口说出) a comment or criticism, we can write it down, and revisit it in a day, and again in a week. This allows our emotions to cool and for a decision to be made based on logic.
Cool Off
Sometimes people get to us, especially the ones close to us who know our 'hot-buttons'（能引发立即反应的敏感事情）, which they press liberally and amply. Lashing out（严厉斥责）won't exactly bring the two of you closer, or make either of you feel better, so cool off and come back.
Don't Correct
When someone is wrong, is not always necessary to correct them, especially when it could cause them embarrassment or discomfort. In such situations, it's better to not say anything and let them save face, and not create tension.
Uplift and Encourage
Instead of pointing out the negative in what someone is saying or doing, strive to find the positive things about them. Uplift them by letting them know what you like or admire about the situation.

你曾经对别人说什么或是做什么反应过激吗？可能你很正直，只是自卫或只想要改正了些错误。相信你碰到过这样的情况，我也一样。
回顾过去，我犯了很多的社交错误，有言论上的，也有行为上的。在我们轻描淡写这些时，你会将某些情况对号入座。但重点不是详细论述这些事实，而是要从中吸取经验慢慢完善自己并成熟起来。
几种控制反应过激的方法
沉默
相信你听到过这样一种说法：“没什么好说的就闭嘴。”当你要说些并不恰当的话时，沉默往往更容易更安全，更有价值。
写下你的想法
不要不经思考就脱口而出你的评价或者批判，我们能将它写下，然后过一天后再去修改，再过一个礼拜去回顾。这可以让我们平静下来，在理智的前提下作决定。
冷静
当我们和那些熟谙我们“软肋”的人接触时，在他们频频发难之下，严厉痛骂既不会使彼此关系更密切，也不会使彼此感觉更好些（即使有好感觉也不会持续很长），最好冷静下来恢复常态。
无需纠正
当别人犯错误时候，没有必要总是去纠正他们，尤其是当纠正可能会使双方陷入尴尬境地或让彼此不舒服时。在这种情况下，最好是不要说什么，保全他们的面子而不用制造紧张的气氛。
鼓励
与其指出别人所作所为中不令人满意之处，不如努力去发现他们值得肯定的一面。让他们知道你对他们的认可，以此来鼓励他们。