Are you an ALL OR NOTHING person? Here’s How to Change
Some of us lack a couple of gears; it’s either full power ahead or nothing. Do you suffer from that? I do. My All or Nothing mode was forged a long ago.
I bounced home from school after Sports Day, “Mummy, Mummy - I got second place in the 100 metre sprints today!!”
My mother looked at me in concern, “Second place? Oh, what went wrong?”
You get the picture? No wonder I’m an All or Nothing girl!
All or Nothing thinking says, “You either do this perfectly, or you don’t even bother.” It’s one of the biggest blocks to making positive changes in your life. It’s one of the biggest blocks to making your life work at all.
Pro’s:
You tend to achieve more in life
You end up highly skilled in variety of areas
You are able to focus on one thing and go for it it
You have high expectations of yourself
You never suffer from boredom
Con’s
You tend to be a bit highly strung (神经过敏)
To kick back and relax is difficult
You tend to overuse your body
You find it difficult to just do things for fun without wanting to achieve excellence
You are hard on yourself
It can sabotage（v. 破坏）effort
We could try something together. We could focus for one week on what is betwixt and between（模棱两可）: the fading light in the evening, the turning of the tide, the shift between sleeping and waking, or the many other moments when soft change occurs. Maybe we could share our experiences of this in the comments.
