We can talk about something together something, together, talk

Sylvia_scj

Since few people come here to write down the words about their feelings or moods, I think maybe it’s better for us to talk about something here together.

Today’s topic: If you get a chance to work abroad for many years, will you leave your spouse for it?

Try to express your opinion in more than 3 sentences.

Thank you.

laoli1112

Take me for instanse, i wiil take it.From my point of view,we should cotinue to learn something new from the people aroud the world.So we must give up something first.It is worth  leaving my wife(and my kid) for 3-5 years .As they say,nothing ventured nothing gained!

laoli1112

To my knowledge,it is difficult  for a common person to get that chance!

pader2

in my opinion, if i have this chance , i will do it for everyone want to live better, recently ,the first thing we can do is work and learn

laoli1112

It depends on how long time.If more than 5 years or even longer ,i will not leave my family!

DZ

Maybe I'll take it.I think my husband will follow me He'll look for a job in the country I'm in.If not,we're still young,the chance is valuable

Sylvia_scj

It seems that most of you will grasp the chance and leave your spouse or family. I think maybe you are all much younger than me, because if somebody asked me this question several years ago, I would definitely have the same opinion as yours, but now I have the opposite view. It’s really hard to imagine leaving your family for such a long time. Here is a little story which could maybe make us think more about it.
“Bill Havens made a decision in 1924. At the Olympic games in Paris in 1924 the sport of canoe racing was added to the list of international competitions. Bill was the favorite to win. A few days before the American team was to leave for Paris, Havens learned that his wife was going to give birth at precisely the same time he would be competing in the Paris Games. In 1924 there were no jet airliners from Paris to the United States, only slow-moving ocean-going ships. And so Bill found himself in a dilemma. Should he go to Paris and risk not being at his wife's side when their first child was born? Or should he withdraw from the team and remain behind. Bill's wife insisted that he go to Paris. After all, he had been working towards this for all these years. It was the culmination of a life-long dream. His wife pleaded with him to go to Paris...that everything would be all right at home. Clearly the decision was not easy for Bill to make. Finally, after much soul searching, Bill decided to withdraw from the competition and remain behind with his wife so that he could be with her when their first child arrived. Havens made a momentous decision. He would give up his chance at immortality. Bill considered being at her side a higher priority than going to Paris to fulfill a life-long dream.
To make a long story short, the United States four-man canoe team won the gold medal at the Paris Olympics. And Bill's wife was late in giving birth to her first child. She was so late that Bill could have competed in the event and returned home in time to be with her when she gave birth.
People said, "What a shame." But Bill said he had no regrets. After all, his commitment to his wife was more important then, and it still was now. The story of Bill Havens is a story of how one man paid a high price to fulfill a commitment to someone he loved. It was a life-changing decision.
The child eventually born to Bill and his wife was a boy, whom they named Frank. For 28 years Bill Havens was not certain he made the right decision. Then in the summer of 1952 he received a telegram datelined Helsinki, Finland, the scene of the 1952 Olympic Games. The telegram read, "Dear Dad. Thanks for waiting around for me to be born. I’m coming home with the medal that is yours. Your loving son, Frank." Frank Havens had won the gold medal for his father.
And if you can believe it, Frank Havens won that gold medal for the United States in the canoe-racing event, a medal his father had dreamed of winning but never did. Where did this boy learn such love and faithfulness to family? He learned it from his father who gave up his chance at Olympic gold for a woman he loved and a boy soon to be born. A life-changing decision. ”
You can also find this story in page 27 of the latest DUZHE.

[ 本帖最后由 Sylvia_scj 于 2008-9-8 10:09 AM 编辑 ]

ttwangxiang

That is it！！

laoli1112

If you have a kid,you would feel more difficult !Opportunity knocks ,but once.

[ 本帖最后由 laoli1112 于 2008-10-6 06:34 PM 编辑 ]

DZ

It seems that people who have family especially have kids are more difficulty to make the decision than those who don't marry

Sylvia_scj

I can't agree with you more.

tangna198284

it is really difficult for me to choose,  but i will seriously take it  into consideration, and for me the most important thing is my religion,because i am a christian.maybe i will think more apart from affection.

tangna198284

  how about my feeling

tangna198284

塔塔静

it's hard to say!change is always around the corner!but for me ,my  family is the most  important!

vlucky314

  Maybe I have got one, but it is a poor country .Normal people won't like to go there.

xln1120

It depends on how much money I can get in that contry.

yayaha

i don't married and i'm young.but i think if they have a child. they should not leave each other.i also don't want to my parents to divorce because of their work

036400

i think i will not. as all know, money will come and go, if we leave our relative to earn more money or get a better job, it lost too many.